Yes, when the guy who texts you everyday, feels that you are no longer interested in him, he quickly starts to think that his feelings are being wasted. No one could blame you for thinking that — if they’re texting you less often — it must mean they have lost interest. But the good thing is that’s not necessarily true. The fact is, texting itself is an unreliable barometer of interest in a relationship. So, don’t assume that because they went from texting you 75 times a day to, say, five, that it’s time to go to relationship DEFCON 1. There are totally normal, no-reason-to-freak-out reasons why you’re hearing from them less — and really only one to worry about.

I’ve outlined below the reasons men gave when asked and what I think the real reasons are based on their behavior and some honed detective skills. And you should never choose somebody based on a feeling of scarcity. Where you feel that you need to hold on to any guy you can manage to keep because you don’t feel prized. I’m not saying to stop texting completely. But you’ll be much more successful if you mix in regular voice phone calls, drop in visits, video calls, and texting less to accelerate the intimacy between you. I know that sounds kind of silly, but you get my point.

He told her he was busy and would text back once he had the time. “Why doesn’t he call or text me anymore? Kiara, a high school teacher from Phoenix, shares her story that can give you some insight into this behavior pattern. She ran into a guy named Mike at a local bookstore and the two got to talking. It almost felt like love at first sight. The attraction was instant, drawing them to each other.

#9 He Feels Bored By Your Conversations#

If you haven’t heard of this term before, you’re not alone. If you ask me, it’s one of the best-kept secrets of the relationship world. You don’t want to come across as a girl who only cares about her man in life and nothing else. Try to understand him and respect what he’s interested in. The more he sees that you’re supporting all areas of his life, the less he’ll fear losing his independence.

The reality is that men don’t really like to text all that much. Oh sure, he will say that he likes to text his friends and his family. But the truth is that most guys only text when they absolutely have to.

As your Guy Spy into the Male Mind, I’m here to spill men’s secrets, and here comes one that irritates me to no end… the slow fade. This isn’t something all men do—only boys do this, and I wanted to tell you about it so you know it’s NOT YOU. Yes, it is perfectly normal for texting to slow down once the initial giddiness of the new romance begins to die down. As two people become more comfortable with each other and more assured that they’re going to be there for one another, this need to keep texting constantly can fade away. A man’s need for space to manage his emotions may be a recurring theme, but a major pullback in the early stages while he adjusts to the idea of being serious about you is pretty standard.

He’s been hurt in the past

Think about how you feel when someone approaches you and tries to sell something. Your first instinct is typically to get far away from them. It doesn’t matter how nice and friendly they are, you can’t trust them because you know they want something out of you. You know how sometimes you’ll go to take a sip of water and you literally can’t stop chugging?

I have two theories for why this happens and 6 real-life scenarios from men backing them up. Keeping a casual tone while doing this shows him that you’re a high-quality woman and that you’re okay without him too. When you send him this message, you are giving him a chance to get in touch again and reconnect. The reason he ghosted you could be that he was trying to make you think of him.

Just enjoy it, that’s really all there is. However, when is it okay to ever try and expand on the relationship? It also makes sense to me that after a while (several weeks or so) of this fantastic thing you’ve got going on to naturally want to dig a little deeper. Not that XXXBlackBook is down you want to force an unrealistic relationship but that it’s at a point where your conversation and time together can become more meaningful and emotionally driven. So how do you break that plain without causing them to run? Honestly I’m sitting in this situation right now.

However I began to invest in the fantasy and then I became terrified of losing it. If I didn’t hear from him I would panic and it would leave me constantly stressed and on edge. Instead of enjoying whatever we had, I was always thinking of where it was going, of how he felt. When your wheels are spinning like this you emit a nervous sort of energy and it’s off putting.

You need to be vulnerable and willing to share with him that you think he’s an amazing guy. Opening up and sharing those feelings with him is going to make you feel so much more connected to one another, and he’ll be secure in knowing how you feel about him. Don’t rush into deciding that he’s the one for you without knowing more about him, or you might be left wondering why he doesn’t call anymore. Maybe he realized that you were putting too much into this potential relationship, and he saw that it wasn’t going anywhere. Just because he’s dating casually doesn’t mean that you need to stop seeing him. It just means that you want to be very aware of what his goals in terms of dating are, and don’t invest too much energy and emotion in him unless he starts investing it in you.

This frustrates guys and, sometimes, pushes them to a point where they are tired of trying to figure it out. This situation is challenging, to say the least, and it’s tough to figure out beyond the shadow of a doubt why he’s not texting you back. Here are a few pointers you should do if you find yourself with a guy who’s not texting you back. Here are a few things he means when he’s not replying to your text messages.

We’ve already talked about the potential that he could be seeing someone else. But there is also a chance that he thinks you are seeing or talking to other guys. The chances of this being a reason are much greater if you met through social media or through online dating, and not in person yet. Particularly with so many ways of meeting new people through dating apps and social media, it could be that you aren’t the only girl he’s been chatting to. Furthermore, in my experience absolutely no good has ever come of talking more before the date. After the death of Spitamenes and his marriage to Roxana (Raoxshna in Old Iranian) to cement relations with his new satrapies, Alexander turned to the Indian subcontinent.

You’re the one choosing this guy, don’t put this on me. So insightful thank you so much for this article. I used to always freak out about this type of thing and think that they’re not interested but now I just relax and give them space .